What They Aren’t Telling You About Combat Sports Athlete | Ray Rice, Elite Performers And Some Other Stuff

Auto Date Thursday, September 11th, 2014

<What They Aren’t Telling You About Combat Sports Athletes>

The psychological profiles of many of your high level combative athletes as well as your high end military special operations personnel is very closely related to that of killers. Not necessarily serial killers but killers. The skill set they possess, both tangible and intangible, allow them to exist in the population pool in which they sit.

The problem is that they can only sit in that population pool for a while and if not coached, developed, taught or shown how to operate in the general population pool and to what extent, they have a propensity toward failing miserably.

They are already statistical outliers, not only because of their physical attributes but because of how they act and think.

Those who are larger than life, got like that because they believe that they are. The most certainly believe that they are better than YOU, that they can do what you cannot do and that they should be treated special because they can do what it is that they do. Their thinking FITS their job. It does not fit what you are taught in school or what the gen poppers buy into.

The current Ray Rice situation has shone a light on something that many educators and researchers in the area of sports science have known for a while. There certainly needs to be more studies done on the phenomenon of combats sports and their effects and the concomitant relationship between those that do them for therapeutic results and those that do them and are changed due to doing them.

The mindset of many is that there are a certain population of people that need to be doing such sports otherwise their energies could possibly be inappropriately channeled. Thus the cliche “in sports and out of courts.” While others believe that such sports, create a certain level of “monsterization.”

Here’s what I know from my personal experience. You can demonize me if you would like:

I have been trained to hit. From the age of 14, I’ve been in the hitting business. I’ve learned how to disconnect logic from the natural equation of physics that is presented in front of me and disregard the formula of Force and Mass and Acceleration encompass a system of “I fucking believe I can knock you on your ass no matter what.”

This believe system has been trained from multiple repetitions of running into things that have hurt me. And then I have been trained to shut off that mechanism of logic that most adhere to, where, something is hurt and I should stop. I then train myself to hit, strike and attack, no matter if I’m hurt or not with the INTENT to hurt the other person.

I have been training like this in some sort of fashion from 14 to 39. I do not have a male or female switch. Nor a man or woman switch. I have been so deep into the special population of my sport that I’ve existed in a world where I RARELY came in contact with general poppers unless they were serving my food, cleaning my room, giving me a massage, or bringing me a fresh pair of shorts or my clean laundry.

I have been trained to CAREless about anybody and more about what I do best. And if anything got in the way that would hinder what I did best, that thing was eliminated or swept under the rug. Because there was a stadium of people or thousands of individuals awaiting my presence on television from the comfort of their homes.

I work at home, by myself and for myself because if somebody copies me on a bunch of emails or drops something at my desk around 4:45pm and says, “if you can get that to me by tomorrow morning, that’d be great” I will promptly tell them to “Fuck off.” Not because I’m rude or crass. I just have not been trained to be spoken to like that. It doesn’t fit. So I only pop my head out of my shell when I’m in the drivers seat or when I purposely put myself in a learning position or coaching program PER MY CHOOSING.

When I see something “running into me” I immediately jam my foot into the ground, hunch my shoulders and ram into the object. It’s how I’m built. I’m learning the art of the “Ole” and how to move out of the way as I’m getting older but that’s because, as I’m getting older, that style that I learned all my life is not as effective as it was when I was younger.

However, its embedded in my psyche.

Understand that we are actually trained to step on a line and “hammer out” the dispute of “who is right.” And we are constantly fed the mantra, “don’t talk about it, be about it.”

Acting first, striking first, coming off the line first, jabbing first, etc.,. are trained responses. We don’t argue, we don’t talk, and our training doesn’t train a WALK AWAY response.

SO PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT THERE ARE MANY VARIABLES to what you “see.”

I was EXTREMELY fortunate enough to have a wonderful sports psychologist by the name of Dr. Peter Haberl at the Olympic Training Center that I met who helped me during my training process. I wish I would have had access to someone after I retired for that was the roughest period of my athletic life. And I think that many athletes need a sports psych person WHILE competing AND MOST DEFINITELY when they enter retirement to the tune of about 24 to 48 months!!!

What many of you do not understand is that YOU aid in the creation the Floyds, Ray Rices and other people of the world. We all do. The hero worship is a part of all of us. We see a body we like and we covet. We see a play that we like and we forward to others to watch. We see something remarkable and we talk about.

BUT NONE OF US REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHAT IT TAKES TO BE THAT FUCKING REMARKABLE or what that person’s life is like. That’s none of our business until its time to point the finger.

Well, let me allow you to know something. ALL OF YOUR SUPER PERFORMERS ARE OFF IN SOME WAY OR ANOTHER. Their “deformity” which makes them “irregular” is what also makes them “extraordinary.” It sounds great to make everybody play by the same rules and to not provide special treatment, etc.,. but the facts are these –

What you ENJOY watching and coveting comes with a price. And sometimes you don’t want to know what that price is for experiencing such enjoyment.

Nobody wants to know that their Christmas toys are made in a factory in Mexico where people die on the factory lines and get dragged out by their hands and feet and the work doesn’t stop. You simply don’t care. All you want to know is, “Does is take double A or triple A batteries?”

I’m not here to say that the Mayweathers, R. Kelly’s, Ray Rices, etc.,. of the world are right. They are wrong. Hell, I’ve been wrong.

I’m just providing you with some added perspective.

We damn near have an unwritten contractual agreement that says “if you are good enough, we will look the other way.”

The problem with this is that society conditions this until something happens which is too big to look past — And quite honestly either an athlete does something big that gets them in trouble or small things that become bigger once their fame gets smaller.

There are a few things that really have to be researched.

1.) The psychological profile of the combative elite athlete
2.) The streamlining of such athletes into the general population
3.) The providing of proactive psychological treatment and meetings
4.) Financial literacy for those athletes who are special population to remain special population (which is less expensive than the alternative)
5.) Career management/coaching opportunities for athletes after their career is over

I TRULY believe that some of the monies paid to the athletes should be utilized to provide these services and that such services be included in their total compensation package.

The USOC, NFL, MLB, NCAA, etc.,. have a fiduciary and moral obligation in my opinion to take a more active role in the streamlining of athletes into main society. Athletes are different people. We can’t wait to get around each other and talk about our lives and talk to someone who actually understands what its like.

THIS POST is not a pro-Ray Rice post. It is a cry for help for all athletes and to make folks aware.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen athletes pursue another Olympic Games, not because they wanted to, but because they didn’t know what else to do.

I’m sharing this because my book that I wrote with Taraje Williams-Murrayon “The Olympian’s Success Paradox – How To Manage Post Olympic Depression” is out right now and these things were on my mind.

I enjoy sharing different perspectives.

Trust and believe me when I say this very clearly — Ray Rice was 100% incorrect. This is not a Ray Rice post but I need that to be clear so that there’s no misunderstanding.

Also for those that ask, “Well, what are you saying?”

Well, what I’m saying is that “Ray needs help. And there are more Ray’s out there that need help too. He has a disorder, an irregularity, that makes him a good fit for some things and a bad fit for others. He needs to learn how to channel his energy in a better fashion so that he may direct his gifts and enthusiasm in the right area.”

Anybody that gets a thrill out of punishing another person has a disorder.

I am in that category and many of you all are too. I’ve just learned some quality coping strategies. Thank God for a father who played professional football!”

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So I Gave My Students The Challenge (and you can do it too)

Auto Date Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

Last night on my way to Judo and Brazilian Jiujitsu practice at my school in Tampa, Florida I thought to myself, “How can I challenge my students to become even more fantastic than they already are?”

They work hard, make excellent grades and are bone-dog tough! So I figured the best way to challenge them is to allow them to be independent in their decisions so I challenged them with a health and wellness goal.

I said, “this weekend the challenge is to eat all fruits and vegetables and ONLY fruits and vegetables. And the people who accomplish this perfectly get prize.”

My son said, “oh, that’s easy.”

And an 18 year older in the class said to him, “no, it’s not easy at all!”

Well, after some discussion amongst themselves, everybody agreed to do it.

Then I gave the stipulations:

- No packaged fruits like fruit cocktail, apple sauce or fruits in the can. The fruits must me fresh

- You MUST each vegetables. You cannot eat fruit all day

- No vegetables out of the can

- no rice

- the challenge starts on Saturday 12am and ends on the last day at 11:59pm on Sunday

All the kids agreed and so did the parents.

Now I will repeat the challenge at Thursday’s class and see who accomplishes it.

Now I KNOW most of you reading this are not students of mine but if you want to be, if only for the weekend the join me and my students at Tampa Florida Judo. All you have to do is follow this challenge All Day SATURDAY and SUNDAY and let me know via email that you completed the challenge and I will give you a Free Prize!

That’s it!

Also if the challenge inspires you to “eat right” and you want to go a little bit further with your goals you can do what I do and eat how I eat by following the plan that I use at http://www.BodyByRhadi.com

I take on personal clients with extreme weight loss and fitness goals but not too many because it’s very time consuming and emotionally taxing. But since most people are not looking to lose 50 and 60 pounds but just 20 to 15 I direct them here so they can do it on their own – www.BodyByRhadi.com

If they need help and personal coaching then I have them contact me. If you feel that you may need some coaching, and you will know this by your ability to stick with or do the challenge, then email me or call me at 813-770-7930

Take care and have a great day!

Dedicated To Your Improvement,

Rhadi Ferguson, PhD
2004 Olympian
P.S. If you need me, just call me. I don’t work for free but I will work for you.

So I Gave My Students The Challenge (and you can do it too)

Auto Date Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014

Last night on my way to Judo and Brazilian Jiujitsu practice at my
school in Tampa, Florida I thought to myself, “How can I
challenge my students to become even more fantastic than they
already are?”

They work hard, make excellent grades and are bone-dog tough! So I
figured the best way to challenge them is to allow them to be
independent in their decisions so I challenged them with a health
and wellness goal.

I said, “this weekend the challenge is to eat all fruits and
vegetables and ONLY fruits and vegetables. And the people who
accomplish this perfectly get prize.”

My son said, “oh, that’s easy.”

And an 18 year older in the class said to him, “no, it’s
not easy at all!”

Well, after some discussion amongst themselves, everybody agreed to
do it.

Then I gave the stipulations:

- No packaged fruits like fruit cocktail, apple sauce or fruits in
the can. The fruits must me fresh

- You MUST each vegetables. You cannot eat fruit all day

- No vegetables out of the can

- no rice

- the challenge starts on Saturday 12am and ends on the last day at
11:59pm on Sunday

All the kids agreed and so did the parents.

Now I will repeat the challenge at Thursday’s class and see who
accomplishes it.

Now I KNOW most of you reading this are not students of mine but if
you want to be, if only for the weekend the join me and my students
at Tampa Florida Judo. All you have to do is follow this challenge
All Day SATURDAY and SUNDAY and let me know via email that you
completed the challenge and I will give you a Free Prize!

That’s it!

Also if the challenge inspires you to “eat right” and you
want to go a little bit further with your goals you can do what I
do and eat how I eat by following the plan that I use
at http://www.bodybyrhadi.com/

I take on personal clients with extreme weight loss and fitness
goals but not too many because it’s very time consuming and
emotionally taxing. But since most people are not looking to lose
50 and 60 pounds but just 20 to 15 I direct them here so they can
do it on their own – http://www.bodybyrhadi.com/

If they need help and personal coaching then I have them contact
me. If you feel that you may need some coaching, and you will know
this by your ability to stick with or do the challenge, then email
me or call me at 813-770-7930

Take care and have a great day!

Dedicated To Your Improvement,

Rhadi Ferguson, PhD
2004 Olympian
P.S. If you need me, just call me. I don’t work for free but I
will work for you.

The Daily Battle With The Scale

Auto Date Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014

Since I was in sports I have always been in the habit of checking
the scale.

Knowing where I was with respect to where I needed to be was
important for my athletic pursuits as well as my life pursuits.

We live in a day and age now where the scale is demonized. I have
had clients who informed me that they do not like getting on the
scale everyday and that “the scale is not a measurement of how
healthy they are.”

To which I reply, “you are correct, but you still have daily
weigh-ins. The scale in your case is not for you but for me.”

Weighing in daily has less to do with weight and more to do with
personal accountability and responsibility. ‘Checking in’
allows you to ‘check yourself’ when you need to.

I had a former client that came to me yesterday and said, “I
need your help.”

I replied, “What’s wrong?”

She said, “Well I need to have surgery and the doctor said she
will not do it until I lose 25 pounds because it may compromise my
health.”

Well, I needn’t tell you that this client fired me, gave me her
butt to kiss and all but told me to eff off!!!

She thought she was rebelling against me by putting on all the
weight that we lost.

Little did she know that she has what many people gave when it
comes to weight — a psychological block.

I told her, you sabotaged yourself. In your mind, you see yourself
as big. You see yourself as overweight. When you began to move from
the categorization of being fat and/or overweight, you panicked
because you don’t know how to be that person.

See, the success and pressure to maintain that is scary. It’s
hard. And quite honestly it not how you see yourself.

I told her, when you say “I’ve been big all my life.
I’m just big boned” — you are literally sabotaging your
success and health.

Hell, I had one client who swore up and down that if she went from
170 to 145 that she was going to look like a “crackhead.”

Getting her to lose the pounds between the weight of 152 to 145
took 8 weeks!!!!

And it was all psychological. She just couldn’t do what she
knew she was supposed to because she couldn’t
“buy-in” to 145.

Now, at 145 she feels sexy, confident and enjoys walking around her
house scantily dressed. But she had a block. A hurdle that was
tough to jump over.

Every year I take on some personal clients that have extreme needs
when it comes to weight loss coaching. I do t take on many because
the process is so brutal and emotionally taxing. And quite honestly
it is a process that involves many levels of transparency. But
there is that group of people out there who just want to lose a
cool 10, 15, or 20 pounds and all they need is a good program and
the right information.

If that’s you, the check out the program that will get you
where you want to be and educate you while you do it
http://www.bodybyrhadi.com/

That’s the program that I use when I want to lose. It’s NOT
for everybody but it works well for me.

Regards,

Rhadi Ferguson, PhD
2004 Olympian
http://www.DrRhadiFerguson.com
http://www.CoffeeWithRhadi.com

10 Tips To Help The Number On The Scale To Get Unstuck

Auto Date Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

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I know how difficult it is to try to get “smaller” as you
get older.

I tell people all the time that I’m in the fight of my life.

It’s the fight against obesity.

Here are some tips for that I’d like to share if you feel like
you might be a little bit stuck in this area.

*** Tip #1: Make sure you eat breakfast
Yes, I know its cliche but you need to eat breakfast.
Personally, I try to jam down about 20 to 30 grams of
protein for breakfast. You don’t have to do what I do
but eat. And when I mean eat, I mean eat FOOD, not
donuts or garbage.

*** Tip #2: Use Food As Fuel and Medicine
The best medicine that you can take every day is
food. And the worst poison that you can take
every day is food.

Food IS A DRUG. It is taken like every other
drug or medication. In quantities too low, it
can be problematic. In quantities too high, it
can be detrimental.

Make sure you understand YOUR PROPER
dosage. Just as a certain medication is prescribed
for you, take the time to get a food diary that you
can follow. Get one that is tailor made for YOU.

And please don’t say stupid sh*t like, “I know my
body.”That has to be the most ridiculous statement and
phrase ever said in the general population.
If YOU knew your body, there’d be no reason to
go to the doctor. (***sheeeesh***)

*** Tip #3: Get some fit friends

Yep, you hate ‘em but you love ‘em.

Fit people hang around fit people and fat people hang
around fat people.

If you don’t like the word FAT, I understand. I will
apologize every time I use it, but I do call those
who are fat, FAT. And I call people who are skinny,
skinny and I call people who are tall, tall and people
who are white, white. And people who are black or
brown, black or brown. So save the hyper-sensitive
sh*t for somebody else. I’m just trying to help you out
here.

So…. get yourself some fit friends. They will irk your
nerves. They will make people feel uncomfortable
by ordering in diametrical opposition of what everybody
else is ordering at dinner. They will not eat the birthday
cake at parties. You will feel like they are looking at you,
judging you, counting the calories on your plate and all
of that stuff. And, they probably are.

And they will try to change you…… And that is a good
thing because, what will it hurt to be a little more fit,
in a little better shape and to eat a little cleaner?

*** Tip #4: Before You Eat It, Make Sure You Read It

Make sure that you pick the right foods.
Make sure that you are eating the right foods at the right
time.

Also make sure that you stay around from HFCS.
If you don’t know that is….. GOOGLE IT. But by all
means, make sure you read what you are eating.
If you don’t understand what you are consuming, ask!

Ask, or whip out your phone and look it up.

*** Tip #5: Water…..DRINK Water

Okay, I’m done with this one. If you can’t understand
why this is important, then we have bigger fish to fry.

*** Tip #6: Exercise

Look!

If most women gave as much attention to exercise as
they did their hair and their nails, less health problems
would exist.

And if most men, exercised with the same intensity that
they watch sporting events or lust after the women they
see on television, they wouldn’t have a problem.

Focus…. exercise…. stay fit.

*** Tip #7: More Sex

Please, have more sex. Sex is good, it’s beneficial.

Now my religious preferences dictate that you should
be married before doing the horizontal mambo so I am
definitely speaking to the married folks when I write this.

However, I’m sure others will take the advice too due to
the health benefits.

More sex. I don’t care if you feel like it or not. A good
sex diet will benefit your overall health.

*** Tip #8: Get More Sleep

Try to get more sleep and try to make sure that when you
do go to sleep that your room is a dark as possible.

Keeping a consistent bedtime is also very good for your
health and overall wellness.

*** Tip #9: Do Something That You Love

Take a piece of paper, fold it in half. On the top of
the left side write “MORE” and on the top of the
right side write “LESS”.

List all the things in your life that you would like
more of or to do more and also all the things in the
“Less” column that you would like to do less.

IMMEDIATELY pick 2 to 3 things off of the more
list and begin to make those things happen.

Also choose 2 to 3 things off the less list and remove
them from your life as much as you possibly can.

If some of the things on the list are connected with
another participant or person, do NOT deal with it.

ONLY DEAL WITH THE THINGS THAT YOU CAN CONTROL — that way you
can make some changes immediately.

Your personal overall wellness will increase significantly
and it will also cause less “stress eating.”

Lastly………

*** Tip #10: Purge Your Pantry and Refrigerator

I don’t care how much it costs, I don’t care how much you
like it.

If the food in your home is NOT good for you…. GET RID OF IT.

Make a change — today. If you can’t do this…. well, you may
not be ready to help yourself. If you get STUCK on this, then you
may need some help to get unstuck.

If you have not registered for my tele seminar later on this
evening, April 16th on Wednesday then I would encourage you to
register now while there is still space.

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Take care,
Rhadi Ferguson, PhD

Don’t Tax Yourself, Get Unstuck By Forgiving YOURSELF

Auto Date Tuesday, April 15th, 2014

Join me on Wed. April 16th
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Hi there-

I’ve screwed up in my life BIG TIME. I’ve made mistakes,
hurt people that I had no intention of hurting, aligned myself with
the wrong people, not aligned myself with the right ones. I’ve
made some really bad decisions and some poor investments.

I’ve also tried my damnest to do things the right way and have
still had them turn out terribly wrong.

And when I am wrong, I apologize (well now I do – hey, I’m
getting better everyday THANK GOD!)

And I also used to beat myself up pretty bad too.

You know how we do sometimes. We turn our own foot around to kick
ourselves in the arse!

I used to do that and also I would be so burdened with guilt.

So much so that I was carrying around so much emotional
“weight” that I couldn’t move forward.

And this is or has happened to you too.

Stop carrying that guilt on your back. It’s too heavy and
it’s weighing down you and your progress!

It’s actually blocking you from being the BEST you possible.

It is causing you to be STUCK!

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I had to learn that, in life, perfection was a goal not a mandate!
There are moments in life that are perfect.

There are moments in life when we are perfect.

But perfection is something that you strive for not something that
you beat yourself up for.

If you are carrying around some guilt, take the time right now to
get in the mirror and say to yourself 3 times OUT LOUD, “I
love you and I forgive you!”

And let go of that burden of guilt that has you “stuck!”

Have a great day.

If you enjoyed this and know that you are stuck and just need a
little push to get unstuck or know someone who does, then please
join me on Wednesday, April 16th for my powerful teleseminar on How
To Get UNSTUCK! The 7 Things You Need To Know To Take a Your Life
To The Next Level!

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Regards,

Rhadi Ferguson, PhD
2004 Olympian
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Don’t forget about our appointment

Auto Date Monday, April 14th, 2014

Don’t forget our appointment on Wednesday, April 16th.

I’m looking forward to *seeing* you there.

Here’s how we can *meet*

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Please join me for the most remarkable 90 minutes that you will
experience this year as I fully expose myself and my “problem
areas” and help you get through yours!

Many of us are just not fulfilling our dreams, walking in our
calling or doing what we’ve been chosen to do because we get
stuck in a vicious cycle of comfort and conformity.

It is time to get out of that rut.

It is time to get UNSTUCK!!

It is time to get everything that life has for you!

You’ve already gone through the sh*t! Now it’s time for you
to experience some SUGAR!!

Join me on Wednesday, April 16th so that we can get you unstuck and
“sweeten” up your life!

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Regards ,

Rhadi Ferguson, PhD
2004 Olympian

TeleseminarInvite – How To Get Unstuck: 7 Simple Steps To Take Life To The Next Level

Auto Date Friday, April 11th, 2014

Hi-

I would like to personally invite you to join me on Wednesday,
April 16th at 8:30pm EST for a teleseminar that will show
you how to develop a plan to get ‘unstuck’ that fits your
life, your career and your business. At the teleseminar Discover

How To Get Unstuck: 7 Simple StepsTo Take Your

Life to The Next Level you’ll hear first-hand insights from me,
Dr. Rhadi Ferguson, a 2004 Olympian, 4-Time National

Judo Champion, Author, PhD, Father of 2, and business owner.

Years of work in coaching, branding, product creation, teaching,
educating and work in the sporting arena as an athlete and a coach
have taught me some valuable lessons about working, getting unstuck
and creating the right strategy for success. At this teleseminar
I will share with you some of my expertise in coaching, teaching
and training so that you can put a plan in place to not get stuck,
to get unstuck and to have the right resources if getting stuck
occurs.

Please visit www.TheHowToGetUnstuckBluePrint.com so that you may
join me on the 16th of April.

I’m super excited to provide this teaching session and I hope you
join me. You just have to register to make sure you reserve your
spot.

Here’s the link you need to register:
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Dedicated To Your Improvement,

Rhadi Ferguson, PhD

How To Get Unstuck And Get Going….

Auto Date Thursday, April 10th, 2014

Yesterday I sent you a quick notice about a really exciting call
I’m doing tomorrow, Wednesday, April 16, 2014 from 8:30 PM to
10:30 PM (EDT)

Please make sure you *meet* me on Wednesday, April 16th.

I have coached and mentored hundreds of athletes, entrepreneurs,
students, coaches and professional through all stages of growth
starting from having an idea or invention all the way to building
a successful career, relationship and everything in between.

What I’ve found out that occurs to most people is that they
start out in business or on a diet or on their athletic career like
a “bat outta hell’ and then they get stuch. Sound about right?

And I’m sure you can agree because it has happened to me before
an I’m sure you too. If you understand exactly what I’m saying
and it resonates with you, then you should be on this
call – register here www.TheHowToGetUnstuckBluePrint.com

I’m super excited to provide this teaching session and I hope
you join me. You just have to register to make sure you reserve
your spot. Here’s
the link you need to register:

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Dedicated To Your Improvement,

To Get Unstuck Get Out Of Your Own Way!

Auto Date Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

Far too many athletes, business owner, entrepreneurs, coaches,
parents and executives get stuck in life.

Why?

Well, it’s not that they aren’t moving, because they are…
they’re just moving in a circle. They are moving, things are
spinning, but there’s not much growth – advancement or forward
motion.

See, life happens, hard drives crash, cell phones fall in the
toilet, you kids drops his school project and breaks it on the way
to the car, and things just happen to the point where you just
think that you aren’t ‘cut-out’ or built for the whole
‘superman’ or ‘superwoman’ success thing.

Here’s my simple advice to you…..in order to get unstuck, do
what all the high level people do when they get stuck. Find a
professional and get UNSTUCK. Find someone who helps people work
past their sticking points in life, sport and professionally on a
regular basis and GET UNSTUCK.

Look, when there’s no food in your refrigerator, do you sit
down and contemplate how many days you can go without food until
you starve or do you remedy the situation by going to get something
to eat or groceries?

See, it really isn’t an option, is it?

Well, the same holds true for your life, for your career, for your
business, for your relationships

And this is especially true when you feel like you have been CHOSEN
to do a SPECIFIC thing in life or have been set on this earth for a
certain purpose.

See, many people get caught up on what they believe their
“calling” is. And we are at a place where we need to move
past “the calling” and into our purpose because MANY are
called, but FEW are chosen. And most of the time, your ability to
be chosen is dependent on your willingness to GET UNSTUCK.

If you are ready to be CHOSEN you have to be ready to move out of
your current cycle, your current rut, your current level of comfort
and you have to pick up YOUR cross, deny yourself of some things in
life and make LIFE happen.

You have to make a MOVE and invest in you and yourself in order to
get UNSTUCK.

See, life was never meant to be easy. It is to be lived. And in
order for you to live life to it’s fullest means that you have
to FULFILL things in your life. Meaning there are checklists to
your refining process, steps if you will, that you must go through
in order for you to get to the place where you need to be.

And in order to go through this process of getting unstuck, you
must not only walk in your calling but also start checking off the
checklist for the fulfillment of your purpose so that you may
operate in that which you have been chosen for.

Now here’s a piece of advice that I have for you.

Before you embark on this journey, there are 4 things you are going
to need:

1. you are going to need some patience
2. you are going to need some great friends, they are essential
3. you are going to need some skill
4. you are going to have to love to practice in order to hone
your skills (no matter the profession)

Olympians, World Champions, Successful Entrepreneurs, and Winners
do NOT get stuck and pause. They get stuck, get help and get
OUT!!!!

AND YOU CAN GET OUT TOO.

I remember when I first started in business and all I could think
about was making money. I thought that whole, “I’m in it
to help people” was “B.S.” I used to say,
“I’m in business to make money.” And although that
is WHAT businesses are for, that is NOT what I am for nor about.
And a new business owner, I had challenges in defining what I was
called to do and chosen to do. I didn’t’ understand
taxes, business, marketing, branding, positioning, and how all of
those things are different areas that require a separate expert. I
didn’t know. Nobody told me. I was just shown how to hustle
and as a former athlete I could understand that. But just like an
athlete, I ddin’t realize that hustling would get me far but
only so far. And I found myself stuck. I understand the challenge
of new business owners and those wanted to embark on such a path
and here’s what I can tell you.

Do what I did….. HUSTLE and HUSTLE HARD because the people like
me, will not help you unless you are. If you are stuck, but people
see that you are hustling and operating with integrity but have
just made some errors that you were not aware of… they will help
you.

When my son was born, I can remember being in the middle of my
comprehensive exams in my doctoral studies. I remember tapping away
at the keyboard while my wife was recovering in the hospital from
the delivery. I was so overwhelmed that I failed my comprehensive
exam. There were 4 questions that require 15 pages each. That’s
60 pages. I was OVERWHELMED!!! And when I failed, I was stuck. I
could not go forward with my program and I could not go backward.
And if I did not handle the rewrite appropriately, I would be
kicked out of the program. I was stuck. But the great thing about
it was that I had successfully completed 3 of my question and only
had to rewrite 1 of them so I did the rewrite and resubmitted it. I
looked at what I did to complete the other 3 successfully and
followed that formula.

Sometimes in life, you just have to remember that you are smart,
you are good, you have been successful before and you can do it
again. You just have to go back and repeat the formula.

And then there are times where you have to acknowledge that
“what got me here, won’t get me there” and that you
MIGHT just be stuck.

Before I started producing all of my books as a writer and author I
would struggle severely to write. It wasn’t until I went to a
seminar and heard this man who has written several book give out
his formula for writing that I stopped struggling. He said to:

1. Get up early in the morning
2. Get FULLY dressed as if you are going somewhere
3. Pick up a book and read for 10 mins
4. Get in front of the computer and begin to write.
5. It doesn’t matter what you write – write. Get in the
habit of writing

After a while you can worry about what you are going to write
about. In the beginning you just need to train your body and your
mind to write.

I thought that this was so crazy, but it worked. I do NOT get stuck
in my writing any more.

Sometimes getting UNSTUCK is a matter of creating enough momentum,
getting the right push or running into someone with the right
equipment to help you.

No matter which thing you need help with or what’s causing you
to get stuck, I would like to encourage you today to join me at
www.TheHowToGetUnstuckBluePrint.com that you may attend my
teleseminar.

Momentum is what you want in your business and getting momentum in
your life will help considerably. You might not always know what
the a “stuck” situation is going to occur but the key is
to try to never get stuck and if you do, to make sure you have the
resources to get out!

And remember this saying: “Getting unstuck, has nothing to do
with luck. You have to be prepared to get out and that is what
getting unstuck is about!”

Once again I would like to encourage you to join me at
www.TheHowToGetUnstuckBluePrint.com so that you may attend
my teleseminar

Dedicated To Your Improvement,

Rhadi Ferguson, PhD
http://www.TheHowToGetUnstuckBluePrint.com