I must truly apologize for not posting in a while but I have a VERY good reason. I have not, did not and really did not want to comment on the Don Imus situation.
Just in case you have been hiding in a cave for the past 2 weeks, Don Imus is the man who called the African American female basketball player on the Rutgers Basketball team some “Nappy Headed Hoes”. Now you all know that Coach Ferguson is “off the cuff”, “off the chain” and sometimes really “over the top” but at the core of my message is high achievement and help for you to get there.
I understand that Don Imus is an entertainer and he provides hard and soft news and commentary on his show and I can understand that. What I can’t understand is racism or racist comments. Now I’m no idiot, I know that the terms that he used are used colloquially by African Americans, Latino Americans and in some circles European Americans as well, BUT!!!! (and that is a big but…..)
Although things are right and wrong, “right” or “wrong” sometimes has a lot to do with the context. For instance, it’s not right to walk outside in cold weather and say, “Shyt it’s cold out here.” It isn’t. I mean, there are alot of words to use and shyt probably isn’t the best one to select. However, I use it and many do to. So it’s wrong, but its okay in that sense. Now if you walk into church and the air conditioning has been on for a while and its cold in there, it would be VERY wrong for you to enter into the church house and say, “Shyt, it’s colder than a muphuka in here!”
Your statement, although allowable would be CLEARLY out of context for the environment and you would be deemed, marked and fingered as crude, uncouth and lacking good judgement. Herein lies my argument.
I’m not saying Don Imus is right or wrong for saying what he said. I know plenty of folks who say things in their homes, in the privacy of their homes, that they WOULD not want broadcasted on the air. Such conversations would be out of context.
Now it isn’t Coach Ferguson’s job to tell Don Imus what is right or wrong. I could only tell you what I would do. And the truth of the matter is, I would have never made the mistake that Don Imus made, but I’ve made some mistakes in my life.
And although I was upset and angry by the comment, I understand that there is more POWER in forgiveness than ANGER. And I’m Coach Ferguson, I’m not the Almighty, but if God can forgive someone when they apologize, then so can I.
So even though I get upset and angry. I have to understand that I, Coach Ferguson, make mistakes too and that my football coach was wrong when he said, “People don’t change, they just get older.”
- I believe that people can change.
- I’ve seen people have a heart attack, change their lifestyle, behaviors and choices and live longer because of change.
- I’ve seen people go to prison and come out with a renewed understanding and value for freedom.
- I’ve seen promiscuous teens grow up to rear children in a loving family and settle down with one partner.
- I’ve seen F students turn around and become physicians. I have seen athletes who walked on to the same football team that I played on in college, enter into the NFL and START in the Super Bowl and win Super Bowl Ring.
- I’ve seen people who were labeled as “losers” become “winners”.
- I’ve seen Chumps turn their life around and become Champs.
- I write this blog because I BELIEVE IN CHANGE. I believe in the word “CAN”, I believe in HOPE I believe that people can do better, be better and get better. I believe in LOVE not in HATE.
I really feel and empathize with the women on the Rutgers Basketball season. They had one of the best seasons in the history of their school’s program and their season will be forever marked with this instead of them going down in history as the 2nd best team of the 2006/2007 season.
They will be known as the team which Don Imus called the athletes “Nappy Headed Hoes”.
That can’t be fixed, but what we can do is learn from the mistakes of others, from our own mistakes and remove as many “Chump” situations from our lives as possible and do what’s necessary to be a “Champ”.
Take Care CHAMPS!!
P.S. “Be the Change You Want To See In The World”
P.P.S. Don’t take my kindness for weakness Chumps, I will jump on your a$$es tomorrow and give you the foot in the arse that you need to get in gear. So look at today as a gift.