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Once again, I’m 17 years old, my name is xxxxx, and I need some guidance.
I’m what you would call a quitter. I’ve quit every sport I’ve played, from baseball to tae kwon do. I even quit during the middle of a tough workout. And I usually quit just as I’m about to achieve a goal, for example, I quit tae kwon do when I was a red belt, one away from black.
I have a goal to one day be an Airborne Ranger in the Army, but I wouldn’t want to join the Army and sign a contract, if I wasn’t sure I would make it. If I was sure I wouldn’t quit. As I said, I quit in workouts, so what would say that I could make it through weeks of pain and workouts to achieve the goal, nothing.
I hate being a quitter, but I don’t know another way I guess. I’ve done it since I was a little kid playing baseball. I especially hate it when my parents are disappointed in me quitting. I love them, and I want to make them happy, and they’re supportive of me, but once I want to quit something, they never approve. They try to teach me that I’m making mistakes by quitting and try to keep me from doing it, but I don’t know what comes over me to make me do it.
The only thing I haven’t quit was school. I want to go to a good college one day, so I know I have to do it. Also I started Krav Maga and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu about a year ago, but I’m even starting to slack off there.
I guess I just need some words of wisdom. What makes you have that drive to do something. I know people get a drive off being called a quitter, and want to prove people wrong, but I’ve never had that feeling before. I just seem to not care when someone calls me a quitter, even though I hate it.
I can’t go a head in life like this. You can’t become successful by quitting. I know this. But I don’t know what to do, what to change, and how to change it. I guess I just need some help.
You’re the person I wish to be, successful, happy, and much more.
Thanks for reading and responding,
Thanks for your question. Now you asked me this question so I’m going to be 100% completely honest with you.
First off. Your parents are partly at fault for this quitting issue. They should not tolerate you quitting nor allow you to quit. And the reason why I’m telling you this is because one day you may have some children or be the caretaker for some and you must not continue this cycle of instruction. This is CLEARLY learned behavior.
My mother used to tell me:
“Once a task is once begun, never leave it till its done;
Be the labor great or small, do it well or not at all.”
The bottom line in that was that once your started, there was no stopping. And the only option was doing your best.
If you want to quit something brother, NO ONE is going to stop you. People quit teams, they quit marriages, they quit on their kids, they quit when things get difficult. And you know what? Good!! Because in the long run the winners in life DO NOT WANT TO BE AROUND THE QUITTERS.
Son, you need to get where you want to be and stop being soft! I don’t know you but I’m going to tell it to you straight.
Because the Army Rangers or the Marines is no place to find out that you are soft. I’ve hung out with Marines and people who are Army Rangers and I’m telling you…that these dudes are cut from a DIFFERENT cloth. If you are weak, chalk it up as being weak. If you no longer want to be soft and I don’t think that you do, then start sticking with things no matter how difficult they are.
The one thing that I have found which has really helped some clients who I’ve trained was preparing for a marathon.
I think such training will be helpful in your preparation for becoming an Army Ranger and I think it will be great for you to get out there on the pavement and stick with 26.2 miles even when you are hurting.
If you need my help, I will help you get there. Email me at email@example.com and I’ll coach you across the line as I have done for many others.
I would also read the book The Ultramarathon Man by Dean Karnazes. That will provide you with a new perspective on what is or what isn’t possible.
And remember….Phil. 4:13
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